“We hear only those questions for which we are in a position to find answers.” Friedrich Nietzsche Sometimes when we are evaluating our lives, we need to ask ourselves the hard questions and here they are: 1. Do you feel like you’ve lived this same day many times before? Take a hard look to see if you are spending each day like the day before. Evaluate whether you are living in a life filled with monotony. This is not necessarily… Read More »

Though I had a specific plan for my birthday (A Birthday Bucket List Extravaganza), there were some funny, sweet, frightening and surprising occurrences that happened as well. 1. Followed by a Creepy Man in Oakland On my way to Pican Restaurant to get my birthday Po' Boy and Whoopie Pie, a man in a older blue sports car followed me for several blocks shouting something that I couldn't quite make out. The insinuation was that I was a streetwalker (I would like to think a… Read More »

Though "No" is one of the simplest and shortest words, for some folks (the finger is pointed straight at me) it may be one of the hardest to say. There are many reason we don't say no; to avoid the appearance of being rude, fearing conflict or being afraid of missed opportunities. But, saying "no" is the key to securing the time you need for yourself, family and friends.  5 tactful ways to say "no"…. …when someone wants you to lend them money. "I wish I… Read More »

1. Fear of Failure Fear of failure is one of the most common fears that people have. Some have even claimed that every negative emotion we have is based on fear. But, understand that failure has its benefits, because each failure is an opportunity for growth. 2. Procrastination "I'll do that later…and later…and later." Many times if you break down your task into smaller, more manageable goals it will be easier to tackle. Or try telling someone about your goals, this will… Read More »

In the grand scheme of things, I don’t know much. But, what I know for sure is: 1. Perfection is a myth. Perfection is an unrealistic goal to aspire to since no one is without defects or shortcomings. I will stop banging my head against the wall now and accept that most things don’t require perfection anyway. 2. When life blows, you grow stronger. Ooh…the painful lessons in life. You have to take all those days that truly suck and dig… Read More »

Five thought provoking questions for you to ponder: 1. Would you rather live a life of unhappiness or uncertainty? As Timothy Ferriss has said, “most people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.” Think about it. Though, I know most of us would claim that we, without hesitation, would select uncertainty, how many of us do? How many people are staying in bad marriages, holding on to mundane jobs or are reluctant to move away from the safety of their hometowns? The best I can say is that everyday I strive… Read More »

In a day and age where it feels like we schedule almost every minute of every day, can you spare 10 minutes?  You may have to wake up a little earlier, cut out one of your television programs or forgo that third cup of coffee in the morning. But, wih an extra ten minutes in your day you could be quite productive. 1. Clean out your Email Files Reply, trash and unsubscribe to emails that are no longer useful. 2. Write a Thank… Read More »

1. Attitude of GratitudeMany studies will tell you that the key to happiness is being grateful. Happy people focus on the positive in every situation. That means that instead of smoke coming out of your ears when the coffee shop barista messes up your triple shot, non-fat, no foam, sugar-free Vanilla latte you are grateful that you were even able to afford coffee at all that morning. Starting a daily gratitude journal and listing 5 things everyday that you are grateful for will get you… Read More »